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Stop Enabling Yourself To Cheat On Your Diet

One trait that many angry overeaters share is the ability to find sources of unhealthy food to binge on. Like an alcoholic who always knows where the nearest liquor store is, the overeater also knows where the nearest stash of treats is.  In fact, many angry people place themselves by the buffet table in a social situation so they can eat away at their feelings of social insecurity by noshing and nibbling at the table.


Many overeaters are not truly hungry. They eat because the food is there and they always make sure that they are in situations where food is near.  Obsessive overeaters often have similar characteristics to hoarders, hiding food for consumption later. The hoarded food becomes like a security blanket that makes up for the great sense of insecurity that they always feel.


Overeaters tend to repeat the same mistakes again and again. They always lose because they do not bring anything to life but the same destructive reactions again and again.

Many overeaters also portray themselves as a victim in life. It is always somebody else’s fault.  As long as they admit that they are never accountable for their own reaction to a bad situation, they seem stuck where they are and spiraling into an addiction to food.


The core psychological and spiritual problem that is at the basis of reactive behavior is a reluctance to be accountable for one’s actions in the first place. These types of people always insist that they have morals and that this is why they are a victim when really; the abuse of their body, dwelling in the past and refusal to take steps to address their anger


If you are experiencing negative feelings that you are trying to detach from, then do not put yourself in the path of temptation. Do not walk by that cupcake store on the way home and veer away from that art opening with all of the wine and canapés. Do not buy KFC because it is a bargain and they are having a two for one drumstick sale!  Stop telling yourself that the treats you have at home are really for the kids and not for you.


In fact, many experts at weight loss suggest that you throw out all temptations in your home including any chips, cookies, ice cream or anything else that you have stashed away to pacify an emotion that you cannot deal with.


The Power Of Positive Thinking To Meet Fitness Goals

If you are in Weight Watchers or have a therapist who is trying to help you lose weight you might have already learned  “changing your thoughts to change the feeling”  can kill hunger pangs and you might also realize the power of a positive thought to change the course of your day. Set your sights high by having positive thoughts as they have been known to subtly influence our behavioral patterns and the outcome of events.


One of the most immediate things you can do is make a commitment to yourself that you will make an attempt not to stuff down your anger. This means simply deciding to make positive commitment to you to try and improve. It his can also entail forgiving yourself for past mistakes and praising yourself and others for achievements you have made.


You should also harness the power of positive thinking is to take control of your mind and stay focused on important things. People in recovery from trauma call this practicing First Things First. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do and try to stick to your timelines. Isolating you and binging on food should be the last thing on your list of priorities just simply because that is an activity that does not propel your plans forward in any way.


Many cravings have no physical basis at all. The key is to stop seeing food as a magic bullet to cure emotional problems and address your personal issues so that you do not develop chronically unhealthy eating habits that can undermine your weight loss.  You need to see your problems as positive challenges that you can easily overcome.


If you feel you are overwhelmed by problems then be sure to set a strategy for solving. Think of yourself as a proactive creature and not as a victim of circumstances.  Many people find that journaling or even doing something as simple as buying a day timer and writing in it helps them clarify and organize their day so they can get things done. The rule of thumb is that even if you can perform one positive small act you are much further ahead in your day then if you had not performed one at all.


Another important component of the power of positive thinking is to be honest with you and to challenge yourself. Do not be afraid to be courageous or change and improve each day.