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Stop Enabling Yourself To Cheat On Your Diet

One trait that many angry overeaters share is the ability to find sources of unhealthy food to binge on. Like an alcoholic who always knows where the nearest liquor store is, the overeater also knows where the nearest stash of treats is.  In fact, many angry people place themselves by the buffet table in a social situation so they can eat away at their feelings of social insecurity by noshing and nibbling at the table.


Many overeaters are not truly hungry. They eat because the food is there and they always make sure that they are in situations where food is near.  Obsessive overeaters often have similar characteristics to hoarders, hiding food for consumption later. The hoarded food becomes like a security blanket that makes up for the great sense of insecurity that they always feel.


Overeaters tend to repeat the same mistakes again and again. They always lose because they do not bring anything to life but the same destructive reactions again and again.

Many overeaters also portray themselves as a victim in life. It is always somebody else’s fault.  As long as they admit that they are never accountable for their own reaction to a bad situation, they seem stuck where they are and spiraling into an addiction to food.


The core psychological and spiritual problem that is at the basis of reactive behavior is a reluctance to be accountable for one’s actions in the first place. These types of people always insist that they have morals and that this is why they are a victim when really; the abuse of their body, dwelling in the past and refusal to take steps to address their anger


If you are experiencing negative feelings that you are trying to detach from, then do not put yourself in the path of temptation. Do not walk by that cupcake store on the way home and veer away from that art opening with all of the wine and canapés. Do not buy KFC because it is a bargain and they are having a two for one drumstick sale!  Stop telling yourself that the treats you have at home are really for the kids and not for you.


In fact, many experts at weight loss suggest that you throw out all temptations in your home including any chips, cookies, ice cream or anything else that you have stashed away to pacify an emotion that you cannot deal with.


The Relationship of Feelings to Fitness

Many people who put off exercising  are surprised at themselves and also disappointed in their own behaviors. Many of them, especially women, feel like failures which causes them to eat even more.


Your best tact is to get out of this “victim” position where you believe that you can’t win when it comes to taking control of your time.  Getting to that gym is all about being organized, making lists and making fitness like a part-time job that you want o put some hours into.


You need to start identifying the types of feelings that you are experiencing when you are procrastinating. What is the feeling that is the payoff?  How do you give yourself permission to procrastinate in the first place?  What is your cue to move away from what it is that you are supposed to be doing into things that are less productive?


The key to stopping yourself from procrastinating is to recognize that when you feel this feeling that you are about to waste some time. You can literally catch yourself in the act and stop yourself before you go too far.


Some people feel pleasure, elation, shame, guilt or redemption.  It can even be a combination of these feelings as the emotional response to procrastination.  It is also important for you to understand exactly why you procrastinate and in doing so you will be in a better position to avoid allowing it to happen to you, over and over again.


Every person is different and has a different personal reason for putting a chore off.  Furthermore many of these reasons may be absolutely valid.  Still part of achieving our goals is keeping an eye on the goal and not on the reasons why we should not achieve it or even don’t deserve it.  Many people procrastinate when they get a big opportunity because they are afraid they will fail.  Even greater sometimes is the fear of everything they may have to deal with if they are actually successful in life.


It may take you some time to get the hang of recognizing the feelings that may cause you to procrastinate.  Just remember – a feeling always precedes the thought that leads to the action that causes you to waste time!


So pay attention to your feelings as they give you that clue about what is about to trigger a big episode of putting exercising off. Sometimes all you need is a nap, a drink of water or some food and you are then better able to handle the idea of exercising.